SHATTERING LINES • Celebrating And Living Just Like Tabitha


The one place that I love to travel to is Indiana to see my cousins and their families. Since my Grandma Mollet passed away several years ago, we rarely see one another due to busy schedules and other things that always seem to come up. But when we're there, it's like a whole other world.

In early September of this year, all of the Illinois Mollets and other family members traveled down to celebrate my Uncle Fritz's 80th birthday. We gathered together for a day of visiting, fun and food. The one thing that made everyone's day is when my Aunt Tillie played whiffle ball with everyone. Years ago, she was the pitcher when my cousins and brothers would play. And it's great to know she still has it!

The one thing that was missing was my second cousin, Tabitha, who was unable to make it to the party. Her cancer had gotten worse, and the medicine the doctors had her on was making her sick.

She battled cancer for a year or two, although no one would have known it, because she still worked, attended concerts and other events, and traveled with her husband and daughter, even to Italy. She lived her life to the fullest until her body wouldn't let her anymore.

Last Saturday, Nov. 16, my mom, dad and I traveled to New Albany, IN, to attend a Celebration of Life for Tabitha, who passed away this year on Halloween. She left behind her husband, Nathaniel, daughter, Devonny and many family and friends who loved her dearly.

The gathering of Tabitha's family and friends was not a funeral by any means, but a party. Although some tears were cried when her husband, sister and Aunt Kelly, spoke about her life,everyone knew that Tabitha lived every moment like it was her last. Those who knew Tabitha best, loved her because of her love for life and people. And that is why, her life in turn, was celebrated.

Before we attended the service for my second cousin, my parents and I went to Hancock's Drug Store Soda Fountain in Scottsburg, IN. We had a great meal, which was also pretty cheap, but the thing that amazed me the most, was the camaraderie between the diners and the lady cooking the food.

For a moment, everything just stood still. Everyone slowed their pace,sat at the counter, and talked while eating and enjoying the day. I had never been in a drug store/diner before. I have seen them on television before, but never been in a place so retro, yet so modern. Although people were still coming in to get their prescriptions, others seemed to know that what they needed didn't come out of a bottle.

I love the fact that the people in Indiana are still so laid back about things. Everyone is welcoming and they seem to love life–just like Tabitha did.

This has inspired me to want to live the way she did. No judgements–just love for those around me and the life I am living. I guess that's why I love to be silly and not act my age, which is okay, because I need a child-like spirit to help with the youth at church. I have come to realize that life really is too short, and there are too many serious things in my life.

I'm not always good at being who God has called me to be, but none of us is (thank God for His mercy and grace when I need it!). I want to try to be as welcoming to those around me as Tabitha was, and show them that life is truly worth living–no matter what is going on.


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